Why does it work like that sometimes?
You meet someone, they come, they go.
No promises. You knew them, you heard them. It was simple, possibly even pure.
But even while they're gone, the memory stays.
So do you keep on meeting new someones after knowing it'll only be another memory, or do you stop meeting new ones because you learned your lesson?
Provided that you felt wrong or hurt. Otherwise you're a memory-collector or something. One of those people who do it on purpose for their varied colourful reasons. Whether your reasons are right or wrong. Let alone who can tell if it's even right or wrong. (For the sake of argument, let's leave that to the moral compass.)
Or you continue; open to risking yourself in new relationships, hoping someday, one person finally stops leaving and chooses to stay.
There're wild cards, as I fondly think of them; like you're a passive open book, and one day someone picks you up and starts reading you and before you know it...something, just something inexplicable between you two just happened and keeps happening, that you can't get enough. That one day, you found what you have, in fact, been waiting for (as a passive, contented, open book), or, what you were formerly looking for.
And then my other favourite wild card: Still in the game, with the same reason of meeting someone, who'll finally put them out of the game.
I don't know why we chance upon people who come in and don't stay, especially when we want them to.
I also don't know why we let people in, and then choose to leave them anyway, for whatever reason we have.
Is it a pattern? Are we comfortable with our pattern? Is it karma? You finally know how it feels.
All I know now, is that it hurts a hell lot, when you lose someone you either cherished, or wish you could've cheished.
Maybe because I knew, we could've found a way to make more memories but chose not to risk it.
Either I believe what I have now without them is worth it, or what I could still have is even more.
Come and go.
Come and stay.
I come you go.
I come you stay.
We both come we both go.
We both come we both stay.
I seriously think life, and that Big Force and Entity out there is writing stories out of my life.
I'd like to sit back and read that someday. A long, long, long time from now, kind of someday.
I totally get you dear. :) I personally think that people you meet are given to you for a particular reason. First thing, I guess--is to assess to what degree of relation do they have with you. In generally, in this social day and age, all people are more reasonably friendly than they should be and therefore, it appears that you are all "friends" but you are not.
ReplyDeleteI have encountered friends who may seem not 'loyal'--but don't you think its also because you are already living your own lives? When you're children, it's easy to discern whether a friend is trustworthy and that is when you are always with them. As adults, well, my expectations have decreased-focusing on a job, a family and extracurricular activities, that is difficult to balance enough. Adding a social life can become quite unsteady.
Bottom line, it must not that we need to blame ourselves or other people. It is the way life is--we weren't born in the 50s when life was slow and you can chit chat and skip the ambition. I guess before investing on someone new, well, for me, (whether it's a friend or prospect SO) is whether or not I can accomodate the person in my life without sacrificing the quality of relationships that you have with people who are in your life already. Of course it has its consequences--you can become lonesome. :)
As for why people come and go: for some people (and there are some people), it's the "adventure" of meeting partners--until they realize that it's not worth it (or maybe afraid of commitment) and they leave. If you know this person will hurt you, make less of you, your instincts will tell you whether it's meant for you. Or the Big Force above. You will know it and you will feel it. Keep on writing, Rose! I will always read what you write. What happened to that story of four friends? I want to know what's going on with them. :) Take care. Tin
Tin, thank you so much for your endearing insights!
DeleteI agree that we choose the people we let into our lives and to how far they can influence us. It's our choice whether to let them or not.
About the story of the 4 friends.
:))) I'm experieincing some delays. Whether it's a writer's block or plain abandonment, unfortunately, as of right now, I cannot promise where this (untitled) story is going.
But, as soon as I put up a new chapter, you'll be one of the first people to know! <3
Thank you so much, Tin, for the support. I truly appreciate it!
I agree that people do come and go, they came for a reason. They might not stay forever, but they came to change or contribute something into us. I myself experience it first hand, i thought i met the person that i will share my life with, until we separated ways one year back, but i may say without her i will never be the person that i am today, ive learn a lot from her and gave me the direction i need. So probably that is her purpose in my life. For you my dear, the right person will come, you just have to patiently wait for it, as the saying goes "good things happen for those who patiently waits". Weve met only once but i saw that you are a wonderful person, fun to be around, a very smart woman and i might say can be a good PR person. Take care sis, see you around-RJ Camacho
ReplyDeleteRj!!! Thanks bro. That meant a lot to me!
DeleteAh, Destined people in our lives do that, don't they?
I feel happy that you see her in this light, and that you see the goodness in this encounter.
Having friends who feel and think this way makes me feel grateful; that I'm not alone in many, many ways. And well, you could possibly reflect my character, too!
See, even having met each other once! There's a connection! Nyahaha.
But I'm really glad, Rj! Your sharing was inspiring. I shall keep it.
:) -Angie